Ok… Let’s begin with last night or better yet the night before, I got 2 hours of sleep. Baby girl decided she needed mommy time pretty much all night. I had an all day class the following day, which was very enlightening to help with my next season of life. Back to last night, little one got up a couple of times I got 5 hours of sleep and I feel great. Total of 7 hours in two days. Why do I feel great you might ask? Totally seeking the Lord’s strength works wonders and coffee. So this morning I did the dishes and a couple of loads of laundry, stuffed the cloth diapers (yes I cloth, but only when at home), swept the floors, dusted and cleaned, fed baby, hubby and teen (other kids school offers free breakfast to every child, which is awesome) and then took a bath and put make-up on. May I add doing all this with the baby is a challenge while hubby is off doodling and getting ready for work.
So let me continue with are there times you wanna ring your hubby’s hummmm… neck, arm, leg, something? Or perhaps think “Does he think this is a piece of cake here! I’m doing all this cleaning with the baby and he’s playing with a phone! Hello! Do I have Super-mom written on my forehand?” Ok… maybe it’s just me, but boy I would love to take a 30 minute shower or use the restroom without playing peek-a-boo with the baby so she doesn’t cry. I may be the only mom here, but sometimes I just wanna SCREAM “I may not show it but I do enjoy doing things alone too. While your singing and doodling I’m here showering with a baby in a baby swing. I think I still have soap on me, but gotta hurry baby is getting antsy.” Ohhh the joy of mommyhood and never being alone.
So what do we do ladies? Let’s get to the gritty here you may not want to hear this but we are moms and that’s what we do. It’s not the best choice to yell and get frustrated, though I will admit I have plenty of times. The honest truth is all that does is cause disunity, anger, bitterness, resentment and a whole lot of other dirty words. The hard truth is some husbands don’t have a clue. I know what your thinking “Any brainer would notice I’m struggling here.” The reality is there not brainless, they just really don’t notice. Most of the time all we have to do is ASK for help and they will be willing to help. We expect them to do the “chivalry” thing and rescue us from all the mommy nitty gritty, but this isn’t a fairytale this is real life.
The best thing I can offer moms who have small children and/or several children is this, PRAYER. I can not say it enough how important God is for our everyday mommy journey. Seeking God every morning is the best antidote for any mom and wife. It can be as simple as what I do. I get up at around 6 every morning. When my alarm goes off on my phone I turn the alarm off and open my Bible app. I read the verse of the day and the verse again from the day before. I say a prayer for me, my kids and husband (I will include at the end) and then I get up. It’s quick and effortless. Most people lay in bed a few minutes after their alarm goes off anyway so might as well get some great use of the time. Giving God your very first breath in the morning can help any mom get through their morning with a little less irritation and slip-ups. I also pray over my kids as we drive to school and when I get home after hubby has gone to work I pray over him (I will include at the end). If you don’t have time for all this you can set your alarm ten minutes earlier and include your prayers for everyone right then. God wants to be a personal God and be right in the mix of your everyday challenges. Give God the opportunity to be personal with you and trust in his strength. God is a generous God, don’t be afraid to ask for help that’s called pride. We are not equip to handle the load of mommyhood ALL ALONE, He wants to help carry the load for you. God wants to give you the ability to press on with peace and joy. If we want you husbands to be more aware of our mommy struggles and be a first responder helper then lets get praying. The arguing and expectations aren’t gonna cut it, if they haven’t worked yet then what’s the chance they ever will? Let’s get in an attitude of prayer for our husbands, they don’t have to be our knight and shinning armor but they sure can be our God fearing men. If you are struggling with a husband who is oblivious to the hardship your having while trying to handle all the kids and house duties and want his help a little more, then get into your prayer closet and start praying. Start off with thanking God for all the good that your hubby is and does, then pray for God to help you to see the areas you can be a better wife, and then pray for your need of your husband. Let’s do a challenge together, let’s list 10 things we love and are thankful for in our husbands. I’ll start: 1. He’s a great provider, 2. Love’s me and how I look after 4 kids 3. is always thoughtful when he gets food he always brings me something too 4. doesn’t drink, do drugs or smoke (1 or the reasons I wanna stay clean and be a better person) 5.never gets tired of wanting to cuddle with me (even though I’m not a big cuddler) 6. loves my two kids as his own 7. I have never heard a curse word from him 8. loves God 9. goes to church and married group 10. is a homebody. If we get in the attitude of focusing on the good and not always the negative things will look a lot brighter to us.
God’s Truth For Moms:
That’s exactly what Jesus did. He didn’t make it easy for himself by avoiding people’s troubles, but waded right in and helped out. “I took on the troubles of the troubled,” is the way Scripture puts it. Even if it was written in Scripture long ago, you can be sure it’s written for us. God wants the combination of his steady, constant calling and warm, personal counsel in Scripture to come to characterize us, keeping us alert for whatever he will do next. May our dependably steady and warmly personal God develop maturity in you so that you get along with each other as well as Jesus gets along with us all… but our very lives singing in harmony in a stunning anthem to the God and Father of our Master Jesus! So reach out and welcome one another to God’s glory. Jesus did it; now you do it! Jesus, staying true to God’s purposes, reached out in a special way… Just think of all the Scriptures that will come true in what we do! For instance: … People of all nations, celebrate God! All colors and races,
give hearty praise! And Isaiah’s word: There’s the root of our ancestor Jesse, breaking through the earth and growing tree tall, Tall enough for everyone everywhere to see and take hope! Oh! May the God of green hope fill you up with joy, fill you up with peace, so that your believing lives, filled with the life-giving energy of the Holy Spirit, will brim over with hope! (Romans 15:3-13 MSG)
A Little Whisper to God:
Written by Jessica Taylor. NIV Bible
Mom Alarm Prayer- Lord I confess today I can not handle it alone, I need you to be Lord over me. Help me Lord to be self-controlled, loving and bubbly today. I pray that I will be led by The Spirit and my flesh. Help today to see the good in everything and everyone. I pray I see others through your eyes and help me do what you want me to do and not what I think I want. Help me to be the wife you have called me to be to _ and to respect him. I need your help Lord! And help me to be an awesome Godly mom to _,_,_,_ and positive role model for my niece _. Direct me to the ways you want me to go today Lord. In Jesus name I pray you direct my steps today. Amen.
On the Way to School Prayer- In Jesus name we thank you and praise you for everything you did for us yesterday. I pray a hedge of protection over _,_,_ as they go to school today. I pray you bring them home safe and sound today. Pray that _,_,_ will have a teachable and obedient spirit. That they will listen and obey and help there teachers to enjoy what they do. I pray for their teachers _,_,_ that as they are getting ready for work that you soften their hearts to teach with positive reinforcements. I pray they will see the good in _,_,_ and help bring out the best in each of them. I pray the favor of God over _,_,_ that they will have favor with the teachers, staff, students, and community. I come against bulling in the name of Jesus. I pray that _,_,_ will not be bullied or be bullies. I pray that you send them Godly Christian friends and that any negative friends will not cleave to them, but I pray that _,_,_ will be a positive influence to others. I pray that Gods light would shine in and through them as they go to school and that they will be who you have called them to be. I pray for the gifts and talents have placed in them, that they would use them and I pray they will always walk the straight and narrow path you have placed for them. In Jesus name with thank you. Amen.
I have said this prayer every school day for 5 years. It goes fast once you have said it enough times and after I pray the kids each take a turn praying over themselves and/or each other. They pray what ever they want to that morning.
Wife Prayer Unleashed- Lord I give you my husband today. Be with him as he is at work and on the road. I pray Lord that you send the right customers his way. Bless him today and I pray let it be you and not him. I pray he will be a Godly influence to others and a light at work. I pray that he will seek you in all that he does and will burn a passion to know you more. I pray that you bless the hands and feet he uses to work and I pray that his hard efforts will not go unnoticed. I come against any negativity that might try to come his way. Shield him from anyone who tries to talk down on him or belittle him at work. Thank you Lord he is the head and not the tail. I pray you will open doors for him to do your will. I Pray that he will surrender every part of him over to you, so that you can accomplish through him all that you have willed. I pray he will have a passion for your Word and a longing for a daily relationship with you. I pray he seeks you in all that he does with our finances and that he gives to you first. I come against anyone who is a potential threat to him or our marriage and I pray you remove them or keep them from ever entering his work place. Thank you for the man his is and the man he is becoming, full on fire for you. . In Jesus name I pray. Amen.